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Sunday Evening Ramblings

Last night, Mari took me to a birthday party for the father of a good friend of hers.  The man, who turned 90, immigrated from Spain to Cuba in his early 20’s and, then, fled Castro’s dictatorship at 45.  At 90, he is more vibrant, more full of life, and more full of joy than most people I’ve encountered, despite having experienced so much turmoil and difficulty in his lifetime, and his party was a celebration of Spanish heritage and Cuban culture.  The teenagers danced traditional dances, and everyone sang Spanish songs.  His daughter-in-law told jokes, and he relished the youth and energy, smiling all night.  In short, it was a wonderful experience.

His and his son’s lives are symbols of all that makes this nation so wonderful.  Paco, the father, was welcomed into our nation to escape a totalitarian regime that controlled every aspect of its citizens lives.  Once here, he worked hard to provide for his children and offer them better lives than he had.  Frank, the son, studied accounting in college and has built a very successful real estate business.  He is proud of his Hispanic heritage and embraces that culture as his roots, but he is first and foremost an American.  Whenever I am around him, I soak up his intelligence and passion for life.  He’s a living, breathing example of the American Dream.

Last night was a great experience for me, and I’m grateful for the opportunity to have been welcomed into their home and allowed to share in their celebration.  Life is a beautiful thing, and I’m a fortunate person to have such so many great friends, family that loves me, and the two best sons a man could ask for.

Tuesday Afternoon Ramblings

This is a follow up to the entry from this morning.  It was brought to my attention that some of what I wrote could be misconstrued as an insult to my father and his efforts to provide for his family.  Let me say as clearly and directly as possible that I respect and admire my father more than any other person I’ve ever known.  A big reason for our struggles back then was a partner who robbed their business blind, skipped town, and left my father holding the bag.  Instead of giving up and feeling sorry for himself, my father rebuilt a new business and made it fairly successful.  During that time, he often worked two and sometimes three jobs to keep us afloat and sacrificed more than any one person should ever have to sacrifice for his family.  If anyone mistook what I said as a criticism of him, please know that my father is one of the strongest, hardest working, and greatest human beings ever to grace this planet, and I have utmost respect and admiration for the job he has done as a parent and provider.

Tuesday Morning Ramblings

I wrote last night about how I have come to question all of the major decisions of my life, but I left out one decision I don’t regret.  In my life, I’ve had every excuse to be a lowlife.  My mother is bi-polar, and my childhood was a roller-coaster of her tumultuous outbursts from unbridled rage to threats of suicide.  It would’ve been very easy for me to use that as an excuse to sit on my ass, abuse drugs, mooch off of others, and be a leech, but I chose to fight to overcome the obstacle.

We were also fairly poor for most of my childhood.  At one point we lived in a single-wide trailer with no running water, no AC, and only a kerosene heater in the winter.  I could’ve used that disadvantaged background as an excuse to become a thief or a drug dealer or some other form of a burden on society, but I chose to fight to overcome the obstacle, and while I’ve never really achieved anything resembling financial success, I’ve remained a productive contributor to society for my entire life.

At 16, I suffered a terrible accident that ended every dream and plan I had for my future.  I could’ve used that as an excuse to give up and never amount to anything, but I chose to fight to overcome the obstacle.

After my marriage ended, I had every excuse to become one those men who uses women, takes advantage of them, cheats on them, mooches off them.  I could’ve become that man, and most people would’ve shrugged and said that my spirit had been broken by the betrayal I endured.  But I took a long hard look at myself in the mirror and chose to remain true to the man I am inside.  No woman, no person on this planet, not even my sons, will change who I am inside.  I will not lower myself to becoming one of those men for any reason or under any circumstance.  Instead, I will fight to overcome the obstacle.

So there is one decision that I’ve made in my life that I am proud of and I do not regret.  I’ve chosen to remain true to myself and fight through every obstacle and boundary and betrayal that’s been placed in front of me.  I always have and always will choose to be a decent human being who is a productive member of society, even if that society doesn’t appreciate it.  I will always choose to fight for the core of who I am, and I will never allow myself to become the kind of lowlife who lies, cheats, mooches, and shirks responsibility.