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Thursday Afternoon Ramblings

Here are two examples of why our educational system is imploding: Two days ago, as I was going to lunch, I overheard three or four students discussing why they were ditching class that day.  From their conversation, I surmised that they were skipping a composition class, and while I don’t claim that I never skipped a class, it was their reason that disturbed me.  “We’re not doing anything, today,” one girl said.  “She’s just talking about writing drafts and stuff.”  That’s the mentality in a nutshell–listening and taking notes is “not doing anything” to this generation.  There’s simply no thirst for knowledge, no passion for learning new concepts.  Everything must be entertainment.  Those of you who have never taught, I dare you to stand in front of 30 of these slack-jawed, glassy-eyed, mentally regressed oafs, try to discuss with them something about which you are passionate, and NOT feel the urge to shake the crap out of them.

The second example is equally disturbing to me.  In my developmental writing course, I gave back papers yesterday, and one of the students, who has been the most vocal that he doesn’t need the course, earned a D because he had five or six comma splices in a 250 word paragraph.  His strong content is all that kept him from an F, but as soon as he saw his grade, he came rushing up to me.  “This is unacceptable,” he said.  “What can I do for extra credit?”  Then, later in class, he explained to me that he couldn’t understand how he could be considered such a weak writer in college when he was an honors English student all through high school.  First off, I don’t give extra credit.  I still stick to my guns that extra credit should only be doing it right the first time.  But the “honors” student is what really disturbs me because it gets straight to the heart of what’s wrong with education today.

For a couple of decades now, the movement in education has been about making students feel good about themselves.  Don’t criticize them too harshly because you might irreparably wound their tender egos.  As a result of this coddling, the students never develop a sense of accountability.  Then, when they are faced with the cold, harsh reality that they aren’t precious little snowflakes and that the world doesn’t give a damn about their excuses or their emotions or their self-imposed limitations, they crumble into little balls of wounded feelings.  And here’s where I’ll sound like my father and grandfather, but in my day, being an honors student really meant something.  If I had written ONE comma splice for Mrs. LeFever, she not only would’ve flunked me on that paper, she would’ve kicked me out of the honors class.  We actually had to be able to perform at an honors level to remain in those classes.  Today, it’s an empty title based on an empty attempt to educate without standards.

I wanted to tell him that he should go back to his high school and berate them for giving him a false sense of ability when they should have been preparing him for collegiate writing.  Instead, however, I told him to work harder on the next paper, but I doubt that he will learn the lesson.  For too many years, he’s heard how special he is, how unique, how capable.  Now that he’s actually being held to account for his actual ability, it’s my fault for being too harsh and for not recognizing his brilliance.  This, my friends, is why I want out.

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Wednesday Morning Ramblings

How many of us feel like we’ve been transported to Bizarro World when we weren’t looking?  It really feels like our society is collapsing all around us.  Basic etiquette is dead; common decency is so rare that when it does happen it feels foreign and out of place; patience has faded into the past; personal pride is vanishing before our eyes.  What the hell is happening to us?  There’s no simple answer, and any solutions will be met with resistance and controversy by the ones who wish to maintain the status quo, but one of the biggest issues we now face is the rampant apathy that has seeped into every crack and crevice of our culture.

When Christina Aguilera flubbed the National Anthem at the Super Bowl, at first, I wrote it off to nerves.  I mean, with hundreds of millions of viewers in nearly two hundred countries, anyone could be overwhelmed by the pressure.  However, it turns out that one of the biggest factors is that she blew off rehearsal beforehand.  One of the basic tenets that will hold true for as long as people attempt anything is this: “You are going to play how you practice, so practice how you want to play.”  I don’t know how many thousands of dollars she was paid for that performance, but whatever the amount, she should have had the gumption to at least rehearse it fully on the stage before doing it live.  But I believe apathy took over.  Who cares if I get it right.  It’s just the National Anthem.

How many times have you walked into a business and been greeted by someone who seems as if they would rather be anywhere but at their job?  There’s a Subway on Douglas Dam Road that I won’t be a patron to anymore because the workers there are the most apathetic, lazy people I’ve seen in a business.  But they aren’t alone.  Nearly every cashier in every fuel station I’ve been in for the last ten years has had a glazed, dull expression on their face.  Now, I get that those jobs aren’t the greatest in the world, but could it possibly be that the reason the person is stuck in that job is their attitude?

I’m a classic Gen-Xer, so I’m not claiming that I haven’t had my moments of apathy, but I like to think that in every job I’ve ever held, regardless of how menial, I’ve taken pride in the work I’ve done.  I can’t comprehend this new level of detachment that is ruining us.  Not too long ago, we were the greatest nation on this planet, and we carried ourselves with pride in our lives and jobs.  Now, we just seem like a bunch of slouchers going through the motions.  That’s not my country.  That’s not the society I want to live in, but how do we change this?  From my experiences teaching, I’m certain education alone can’t fix it.  So how do we restore our national pride and get people back to caring about the quality of their lives?

Wednesday Morning Ramblings

My beautiful niece, Brianna.

Eleven years before I got to become “Daddy,” I became an uncle.  Today, my oldest niece turns 18, and while the protective side of me is not happy about it, I remember how special and difficult of a time it is.  So today’s blog is for you, Brianna, and the following are things I want you to remember as you go through life:

You are a beautiful person, inside and out.  You have a good heart and a sweet nature, and one day, hopefully many years from now, you are going to be an excellent mother.

You are intelligent and capable, and you can accomplish anything you strive for as long as you are willing to work hard for it.  Never underestimate the power of your own will and the importance of hard work.

Your love is a precious gift.  Never let anyone take it for granted, mistreat it, or abuse it.  If your heart tells you that you aren’t getting what you want from someone, listen to it.  Your heart is a good compass to follow, and if you quieten your brain long enough to hear it, your heart will rarely lead you astray.

I will always have your back.  When life knocks you down and the days seem their darkest, remember that and take comfort in it.  No matter where you are or what has happened, you can come to me for shelter and safety, so don’t be afraid to take a few chances and reach for your dreams.

The only failures in life are not trying and quitting on your goals.  If you come up short or fall on your face, you can learn from that and grow stronger as long as you pick yourself up and keep pressing forward.  Nothing worth anything comes easy, and real successes usually come after many failures.

Life can sometimes seem pointless and difficult and overwhelming, and there will be days when you want to give up.  Those are the moments when you need to reach deep down inside of yourself, get a firm grasp on your spine, clench your teeth, and get through the dark days.  The sunshine will come back eventually.

I love you, my beautiful girl.  You have always been more like a daughter than a niece, and I’m very proud of you.  Happy birthday with many, many more to come.